Friday, January 29, 1999

How do they stay married for 30+ years?

From time to time, I see these wrinkled old couples on TV that claim to have been happily married for 30+ years. Any idea how they manage to do this?

Answer on How do they stay married for 30+ years?

Whoa! My husband and I have been married for almost 30 years. We're far from "wrinkled old" people! But to answer your question, I think the important thing to remember is that marriage isn't a destination, it's a journey. It has continuous ups and down. But you keep rededicating yourself to the marriage. When you feel tempted, when you feel bored, when you feel taken for granted-- you come back to your spouse and reconnect. You also communicate, forgive, and just love the other person more than you could ever imagine. It's part hard work, part good choosing, and part blessing (or luck, depending on what you believe).